For a variety of reasons, it has become apparent to me that I need to learn at a minimum, hilkhot shabbat and hilkhot kashrut sooner rather than later. In general, I am a big fan of knowing halakha, rather than having to ask a rabbi every last little detail. To know halakha is to take responsiblity for one's mitzvah observance and the relationship between oneself and God as defined by mitzvah observance.
That said, it emerges that there is actually a great deal of power to be had by abdicating the responsibility to know the halakha and simply asking one's rabbi, since psak is binding and there ceases to be any question about the permissibility of a given course of action.
Monday, May 28, 2007
Sunday, May 20, 2007
James Bond and Jewish dating
I don't write much. This dearth of composition is largely due to a tendency to reread what I have written, decide that I don't like it, and then delete it. I'm not sure why I am so concerned about being judged in this forum considering that (1) it is semi-anonymous and (2) I control the (as yet non-existent) comments. Therefore, my goal is to write here a frivolous post, to force myself past this (irrational) fear of judgment.
Why does James Bond get so many women (a new one every movie, lucky man)? And I do mean "get". Despite his sweet words and seductive smile, he's a serial lover and leaver. As much as I hate to admit it, I would go to dinner with James Bond. (That's it James, dinner. I'm a nice frum girl.) In an instant. He's dashing, charming, romantic. The list continues. James Bond is the encapsulation of the ultimate fantasy -- a person who gets everything right without the need for actual communication. He always knows what to wear, what to say, how to look at a woman to melt her heart.
Many observant singles (and singles of other walks of life) unrealistically cling to this image as some sort of ideal way to start (and God help us continue) a relationship. They forego early communication due to nerves, procrastination, denial...
Communication is decidely not dashing or charming or romantic. But it is necessary. In the event that I at some point marry, I imagine that marriage is not a very romantic thing either.
So Bond, as dashing as you are, it's time to give you up. And it's time to communicate, as scary as that might be.
Why does James Bond get so many women (a new one every movie, lucky man)? And I do mean "get". Despite his sweet words and seductive smile, he's a serial lover and leaver. As much as I hate to admit it, I would go to dinner with James Bond. (That's it James, dinner. I'm a nice frum girl.) In an instant. He's dashing, charming, romantic. The list continues. James Bond is the encapsulation of the ultimate fantasy -- a person who gets everything right without the need for actual communication. He always knows what to wear, what to say, how to look at a woman to melt her heart.
Many observant singles (and singles of other walks of life) unrealistically cling to this image as some sort of ideal way to start (and God help us continue) a relationship. They forego early communication due to nerves, procrastination, denial...
Communication is decidely not dashing or charming or romantic. But it is necessary. In the event that I at some point marry, I imagine that marriage is not a very romantic thing either.
So Bond, as dashing as you are, it's time to give you up. And it's time to communicate, as scary as that might be.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)